By Dr. Ken Larsen
Self-evaluation is the key to Dr. Glasser’s approach to living a mentally healthy and happy life. The focus of self-evaluation is enclosed in the questions:
- What do you want?
- Is what you’re doing working to get you what you want?
We’re all familiar with Einstein’s famous comment that the definition of insanity is repeating the same ineffective behavior over and over hoping for a different outcome.
This is where we ask ourselves if the past “x” number of years have been spent accumulating wisdom and life skills that help us get what we want?
Or have those years been spent repeating what doesn’t work and living in habits and beliefs that are not getting us what we want.
The common wisdom among those who practice Choice Theory is that if you’re not getting what you want, you can either change what you want, or change what you’re doing to get what you want, or both.
I like to think of life as a voyage. As an amateur sailor, I’ve learned the importance of navigation. The essence of navigation is to have a clear idea of where you want to go and a workable means to get there. From time to time it’s not a bad idea to look back at the wake to see if we are sailing a straight course. But we don’t get to where we want to be by looking back.
Getting our basic needs met is what we are steering for. The choices we make provide the forward motion. As with navigation at sea, it’s important to check our heading against our projected destination. Is the course we have chosen going to get us to where we want to go?
In any voyage it is inevitable that mid-course corrections will need to be made. That is a good thing. We do the same thing in life on a daily basis. If we stay aware of where we want to go, we can make the needed corrections when we see ourselves straying off course.
I wish you all “Bon voyage” in your journey.