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Jealousy

By Kim Olver

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Have you ever felt jealous? Haven’t we all? We tend to be jealous of someone who has something we want. One of the most powerful things we can do is change what we want.  I know that sounds easier than it actually is but we can do it as we get better practicing it. If someone has something you want and you are feeling jealous, make a conscious decision to want something else instead and focus on that.

When you’re jealous over a person who has something you want, first determine if it’s possible for you to have it too. Just because someone can fit into their size 2s again, doesn’t mean you can’t do that too. Sometimes jealousy is born from the scarcity mentality and it feels like if someone has what you want, then you can’t have it too but sometimes that isn’t true. In those cases you can stop the jealousy by becoming determined to get the thing you want and you can use the person who has already achieved it as inspiration.

Another reason for jealousy occurs when we forget that we don’t “own” other people. I’m sure you’ve heard the sentiment that some people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Jealousy often occurs when you attempt to change a reason or a season person into a lifetime person. Learn to allow relationships to run their natural course. Don’t be jealous. Remind yourself of the quote by Dr. Seuss:

“Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.”