By Nancy S Buck, PhD, RN
“Our deepest wishes are whispers of our authentic selves.”— Sarah Ban Breathnach
For greater happiness and well being we are advised to live our passion, be authentic and live life to the fullest. What great advice. But what does it mean?
I’ve spoken with more than a few of my friends and acquaintances who feel as if they are failing at life because they have no idea what their life purpose is! How can you be authentic if you don’t know who your authentic self is?
From a Choice Theory psychology perspective, the answer to those questions are the pictures in our quality world that describe who we are, who we want to be, and what we want to do. Unfortunately that information still doesn’t help much. You may still feel as if you’re in the dark.
There are some clues that you can follow to open the door revealing to yourself what you really want, what your passions are, and discover what motivates and inspires you. Give these ideas a try to see if you can discover or uncover clues to be followed:
(Hint: These ideas are best implemented if you go to a quiet, comfortable place where you can spend uninterrupted time alone.)
Wave Your Magic Wand
Imagine you have a magic wand that actually works. Wave your wand and imagine your life just as you want it to be. Breathing deeply, get into a meditative, relaxation state of mind, actually see yourself, hear the words, notice the smells and feel your surroundings.
Now that your life is perfect, what are you doing? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? How does your body feel?
And now that you are doing what you want, who are you being?
(It is useful to write down any thoughts, impressions, or ideas that come to you. These are some of your clues)
When you grow up?
When you were a child, imagining your life as a grown up, what did you imagine you would be doing? How did you answer the question adults asked you, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
Who were your heroes? Who did you admire? When you played games with friends or alone, what were these games?
Take this information and see how you actually are doing and being some of the jobs, activities and careers you imagined as a child. The translation may not be exact. For instance, perhaps you play in an adult soft ball league instead of being the major league baseball player you imagined. But now you can see the connection between the two.
These are more clues for you to make note of. Add your childhood pretend ideas, dreams and wishes as areas you have yet to pursue.
Fleeting thoughts and wispers
What are those thoughts, ideas and secret whispers that you notice and ignore. Start your list now that includes all those inklings that you remember. Be open to receiving more. Add these new ones to your list.
As you regularly and consistently engage in this practice, what you may discover are your own personal words of inspiration and beingn
ess rather than a specific action, project or job. AND you may discover a specific project, action or job. There is no right or wrong. This self safari process will help you explore and discover your authentic, passionate and purposeful self.
When you spend time exploring, discovering and uncovering your motivational quality world pictures you are cultivating more of your mental health and happiness. Why not start the treasure hunt of yourself today?