By Mike Rice
We humans can be pretty resilient when disappointed or when things don’t go our way. One of the most common ways people declare their unhappiness is by complaining. When all known skills to overcome one’s unhappiness fail, complaining becomes evident. We’ve all heard the old saw, “The squeaky wheel gets the oil.” But also, the squeaky wheel can also get replaced.
There is a belief that exists that by moaning and groaning, somehow, somewhere, someone will come along with the answer to one’s unhappiness or even resolve their unhappiness for them. This usually occurs when the complainer has given up on their own ability to ease their frustration. So they continue to go through life, moaning and groaning and not doing much about their unhappiness except to give up and endure it . . . complaining all along.
Motivational speaker, Les Brown, tells the story of a young man who heard a sorrowful moaning and groaning sound as he was walking down the street in his neighborhood. He wondered who and why someone was making this sad lament. He followed the sorrowful sounds as it got louder and louder indicating he was nearing the source. He came upon an elderly man sitting on his porch reading a newspaper. Lying next to the old man was an equally old hound dog. The young man approached the older man and asked:
“Excuse me sir. Is that your dog making that mournful sound?”
The old man replied: “Yup.”
The young man asked, “Why is he moaning and groaning like that?”
The old man answered, “’Cause he’s laying on a nail.”
This prompted the younger man to ask, “Then why doesn’t he get up?”
And the old man replied, “’Cause he ain’t hurtin’ bad enough yet.”
Is moaning and groaning resolving your unhappiness or is it just easing your frustration? Have you found many people to join you in your unhappiness? Misery loves company but company hates misery. Whenever you get tired of all the complaining that isn’t making you feel any better, you have three choices you can rely on that will bring you happiness at a moment’s notice . . . guaranteed.