Relationship Habits

By Dr. Ken Larsen

We know what happens when an infection sets in.  If it gets out of control, we can die.

Have you ever thought that a relationship can become infected?

In a relationship, “me” is “we”.  Think of two people in relationship.  You can draw an imaginary circle around them and discover that there are actually three entities within the circle.  There is each individual and there is the relationship itself, which is a unique entity made up of these two people.

It is that relationship that can be innaggingfected.   For an individual, an infection usually involves some sort of germ.  For a relationship, an infection involves patterns of behavior.

Dr. Glasser has named seven deadly habits that can infect a relationship.  If the infection is not treated, the relationship gets sick and may even die.

The cure for these seven deadly habits is listed alongside.

The mental health of the individuals and the relationship depend on how each individual chooses to relate to the other.

Seven Supporting Habits

Seven Deadly Habits

These bring us closer to one another

These drive us apart from one another

Supporting
Encouraging
Listening
Accepting
Trusting
Respecting
Negotiating differences

Criticizing
Blaming
Complaining
Punishing
Threatening
Nagging
Bribing

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