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Happy for no reason!

By Nancy S Buck, PhD, RN

 

laughingdogAh, the joys of feeling happy for no reason! Isn’t it the best? You wake up feeling full of hope, a smile on your face with enough energy to handle all problems, challenges, and tasks you encounter. Life is good and you feel good in your life.

Unfortunately you, like me, may not experience this special kind of day of grace as frequently as you would like. These happy for no reason days feel like random gifts given to us by the gods, angels or pure chance.

Perhaps it is because I’m a greedy person, but I want to see if I can change this dynamic. Instead of feeling happy for no reason, I want to start cultivating a different attitude. Can I practice being happy for lots of reasons! After all, why should Thanksgiving be celebrated only one day a year?

Of course there are many secular and religious holidays on the calendar set aside to bring our focus to gratitude, appreciation, meditation of love and goodness, increasing our kindness and generosity in all forms. In fact this year December 1, 2015 has been declared Giving Tuesday. We are encouraged to come together around the world for one common purpose: to celebrate generosity and to give.

My plan, starting NOW, is to collect all the reasons I can find to be happy. I know I will find lots of reasons to be happy if I will only change my focus and pay attention. My brain will automatically inform me of all the ways life is out of order:  from my awareness of my physical well being, to the well being of my bank account and my personal relationships. And then there is the long list of grievances and dissatisfactions I feel about my professional life.

This means that my daily job, my Mental Health & Happiness work, and my intention for well being must be focused on hunting for and discovering all of the delights, sweet moments, natural beauty and personal encounters that I find pleasing, satisfying, and reasons to be happy.

Top on my list is I’m accepting the task and the hunt to discover all of the reasons to be happy today. Next on my list is that some smart, generous and peace-seeking people have declared December 1st to be our International Day of Giving! And today there is the joy of seeing the sparkling white snow coating my world with the bright sunshine sparkling every crystal beneath the deepest, bluest Colorado sky!

Please join me in being greedy. Instead of waiting for the random miraculous days when you feel happy for no reason, start collecting all the joys you can find to cultivate your own personal happiness. Start today, continue tomorrow and carry on the search to discover how to be happy for lots of reasons.

Celebrate you at your best today!

By Nancy S Buck, PhD, RN

Too often when I attempt to open an app on my iPad or get my phone camera set to take a picture of one of my grandchildren I inadvertently hit the wrong button. What comes up on screen is a close up, real time image of me. I hurry to make the correction and remove it but not before I catch a glimpse of what I actually look like compared to the picture I have in my head of what I look like.

This is a horrifying experience!

Is this what I look like? Could my hair look worse? The angle brings out every line and wrinkle I’m pretending doesn’t exist. And yet here is reality staring back at me.

This kind of realization and self-evaluation does nothing to improve my Mental Health & Happiness.

Amazingly I’ve had an equal and opposite experience, and I bet you have too. I come across an old photo of me taken ten, or fifteen or more years ago. I almost can’t believe the photo is of me. I look wonderful! And I remember viewing the photo at the time, yet again feeling horrified at how I looked. But I was wrong. I looked good.

I hope you will please confirm for me that you too have had this experience. I’m not the only vain person on the planet, am I? And I can’t be the only person who was at one point dissatisfied with a photo only to realize later how great I actually looked, am I?

canstockphoto13450488I’ll make a deal with you. Let’s take a step to improve our Mental Health & Happiness. How about today we each celebrate who we are and what we look like today. Just remember ten years from now we will look back at ourselves amazed at our beauty. Let’s not wait ten years to celebrate. Let’s celebrate today.