By Mona Dunkin
It is mind boggling to think that neurological science asserts that one’s brain cannot tell the difference in reality and imagination. Suppose you open a drawer and a tarantula jumps out. You scream, run or faint, etc., only to later discover that someone played a prank with a rubber spider.
In the same vein, the brain cannot tell the difference from past hurts and current thoughts about those past offenses. Continual musing over hurts of the past is as if one is reliving them now. Today. In real time.
Since all of our body works as an integrated whole, the emotions stay stirred up in mentally and physically unhealthy and unhappy ways.
And that affects our body. And here we go ‘round the mulberry bush – only it’s not fun.
Old school is mental health is for clients to get in touch with childhood traumas and other past hurts and work through them. What are the results? The results may or may not drag yesterday into today. The results may or may not lead to little to no change. The results may or may not give spurts of relief with long term staying stuck.
New school for mental health and happiness via Reality Therapy is to live today today. Don’t wallow in the past. Live in the NOW.
Delve into your creative system for the real you just waiting to be unleashed. You know the one. The one without all that baggage.
Engage your free-will and choose. You may or may not experience a deep sigh of relief. You may or may not be able to move past the past. You may or may not have an epiphany that ushers in mental health and happiness.
But here’s the amazing thing. You get to choose. So be good to you.
Self-evaluate your results. Continue when effective. Regroup and re-plan when not so effective. Live. Laugh. Love. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
Or at least it is new school for those of us who have been blessed to learn about Dr. William Glasser and his amazingly simple strategies for blowing the (often referred to and seldom effective) common sense out of the tub and replacing it with personal responsibility.