By Nancy S Buck, PhD, RN
Kindness is a language which the dumb can speak, the deaf can understand — C.N. Bone
Today I’m feeling overwhelmed. The news tells us of an angry man who states he was not raised by racists, but independently found answers on the Internet that led him to believe killing people because of the color of their skin was the answer to the world’s troubles. Perhaps it is reasonable to surmise that he believed this would be the answer to his own personal troubles.
Almost immediately the news tells us that family members of the slain nine who prayed with this young man before he shot them in cold blood have forgiven this man. This is such an extraordinary act of love and kindness that it is beyond my imagining.
What follows this act are the same arguments in todays news headlines, just are they have been so often:
People cry out for gun control!
We need more focus on mental health issues! (Please read this as mental illness, not mental health.)
If the people had carried guns in church this never would have happened.
What do you mean we have race relations troubles? This was an isolated case!
Amazingly there has also been swift action in many southern states. The confederate flag is being removed from public and government office buildings and spaces. Even Walmart is removing the sale of products that display this flag.
One small step. Years and years and years for this action to become a reality.
Could it be that this is an act of kindness? Is it possible that some are changing their opinions and points of view?
My own personal solution, the strategy I turn to for help with my personal Mental Health & Happiness right now is to search for and discover all the many acts of love and kindness committed by many people. My search includes the citizens of South Carolina as well as in my own city. There are people I meet and greet daily who are loving and kind toward me and others.
My challenge is to regularly commit acts of love and kindness. When others are looking to see where there are people committing acts of love and kindness, not acts of hate and terror, I want to be one of the people they discover. I want to help spread more love and kindness in the world.
For me, love and kindness are the answers to the world’s troubles. For me, love and kindness are the answers to my own troubles. For me, love and kindness are the direct path to Mental Health & Happiness.