Contributed by Denise Daub
Allow Yourself To Grieve Through Some Heavy Sh*t — Then Let It Go
“There are things we don’t want to happen, but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without, but have to let go.”
Are all the quotes, videos and blog post on social media regarding “Just let it go!” and “Only think positive Thoughts!” pissing you off or making you feel like you are just not doing life right? This probably sounds ironic coming from me, because those are the messages I send out too – but it’s important to know the difference between what to let go and when to allow yourself to grieve. By not allowing yourself proper time to grieve, you might find yourself looking to fill that emotional pain in dangerous ways (drinking or doing drugs, self-harm, neglecting yourself or others), isolating yourself, going through fits of rages and burst of meltdowns or straight up just going bat-shit crazy and not even recognizing why. This can last for a day, months, or years if you don’t face the pain to heal it.