by Mona Dunkin
Noted Psychiatrists, Dr. William Glasser, suggests the term “mental health” be replaced with “responsibility”. Responsibility is the ability to get one’s needs met without depriving others of meeting theirs. When needs are unmet we feel unfulfilled and fail to live at optimum wellness. We are not taking charge of our lives.
In 1998 I attended a lecture given by Dr. Glasser in which he intimated that certain physical and mental maladies are chosen. I took issue with that; I mean, anyone who would choose pain and misery would have to be crazy!
He went on to explained our basic needs and how we are driven to have them met. Our health – physical as well as mental and emotional – is dependent on how our body handles our actions, our thoughts and the way we feel about things.
This led me to do some deep thinking. I ask myself some hard questions: Was swallowing my anger inflaming my joints? Was my anger not only harming relationships but also my physical heart and blood pressure? How am I hurting myself? I do not want to hurt others but neither do I want to harm myself.
I began to practice the genius of Dr. Glasser’s wisdom. When we begin to lovingly notice our disconnecting habits of thought and actions we can then choose to turn our attention to matters that leads to greater health and happiness and improved relationships. Only when we come to a conclusion for our self are we willing to make changes or take charge of our own life.
Oh, and my health today? Thanks for asking. Peace reigns, relationships flourish, business is good, movement is pain free, most meds have been cut in half and I am releasing weight every day.
How about you? Are you ready to take charge of your life?